Ladies, I know the thought of your guy spending quality time with porn is enough to make you gag. You may think it’s weird, disgusting, even threatening. He’s got me, you may be thinking. Why does he need to look at that crap?

Well, I’m here to relieve your worried minds. You may find this hard to believe, but watching porn is a completely normal activity for men. Many of us do it, and we don’t see anything wrong with it. In fact, guys think of watching porn as healthy and almost a necessity. We are hardwired differently than women. We’ve constantly got sex on the brain, and that can be frustrating, torturous and downright excruciating. Watching porn is a way to relieve that tension.

Sure enough, it can also be a way to remain loyal to our lady friends. I know that sounds twisted, the idea that we watch porn to stay loyal to you. But if we find ourselves attracted to other women, porn is a way to neutralize that. If we’re being tempted, we can just pop in some harmless porn.

“Temptation is trouble,” Vince, 26 says. “You need your release. That’s just the way it is.”

Watching porn is so normal for guys that they will even share their favorite DVDs and videos with their buddies. It’s as natural as letting someone borrow a power tool or lawn mower.

“Normal, psychologically healthy men share porn,” says Rob, 31. “It’s a way of showing off your good taste, like when a woman shares clothes.”

Sometimes, sharing porn is a way for men to look out for each other. Sean knew this guy whose wife was pregnant. “The wife was having mood swings. He was getting yelled at for things that weren’t his fault,” says Sean. A friend felt so sorry for this poor guy that he loaned him about a dozen skin flicks. “It was sympathy porn.”

In all honesty, though, I should point out that porn isn’t always an innocent habit. There are some guys who, quite frankly, get crazy with porn. They watch too dang much of it.