Okay, so I have a long distance boyfriend, i know, what was I thinking. And we used to live close and talking on the phone was easy. But now...we have very different jobs and I like to call him on my lunch break and chat about the day. He works for himself, so he can talk whenever he wants, but whenever we do talk, he's always working on something. So basically our conversations end up being me doing all the talking, and him just saying okay, yeah, uh huh. I confronted him on the issue...I want to actually CONVERSE, but he just said that he has to be working all the time, and just likes to listen. Am I overreacting? Is that just some thing I have to understand about guys. Help!

i don't think you should excuse him with the overgeneralization of "this is how guys are." not necessarily. my ex and i used to talk to 6 hours at a time. my current bf however, can't hold a conversation on the phone for more than 5 minutes. what we did to improve the situation was not talk every day. we're on opposite sides of the state for most of the year and it's hard enough as it is. but letting ourselves wait a while until the next time we talk really helped our situation. we both had more to talk about and we missed each other even more.

i don't think you're overreacting, but i do think it's important to approach any negative situation with as much rationale as possible because i've learned that guys can't deal well with emotional girls. so, try to explain to him what hurts you about it being a one-way conversation and maybe the two of you can decide the best time of the day to talk, when he's not busy working.

uh you are calling him at WORK ? He is BUSY and WORKING ! ANd you should be doing the same - save the chit chat for after hours. When people work for themselves they have to work harder actually so knock of bugging him and get a little self esteem about yourself. You must be insecure to have to have constant reassurance! I would tell any man that called me all the time demanding my attention to BUZZ OFF

Yeah calm down. I wouldn't expect the world out of a long distance relationship. Most guys are not verbal they are physical and not being able to see you physically is an obstacle in itself but if you both are 100% committed it'll work itself out naturally. Also DON't Call Him When HE's Working!!!

I think Alanaa and uwishtoo have really good points. I think too often now we get caught up in the "cell phone world" and forget that before cell phones, there was never such a thing as calling your partner in the middle of a workday - unless it was an emergency. In that way, I think you have nothing to worry about Lulu. Just don't call him in the middle of the day.

yeah most guys dont talk very much.. I hate 2 tell u this but he promblem not even listing.. Guys are just dicks.. lol dont feel bad my man is the same way. But anyways have u ever thought u may talk too much .. DONT call him on ur luch brakes all the time and see what he does maybee he will talk more sometimes u have too play hard too get. Just take my advice.
Thank u .......... Ashleigh

Your guy said he has to work BUT he likes listening to you and you're complaining? I know an acutal conversation would be nice, but give the guy a break. At least you're getting some time with him.