This friendship I have started out as a business relationship but once I let my guard down, we became close and intimate. I knew from the beginning he was relocating. I allowed myself to get close to him for the 2.5mos. before he left and he got close to me. We had a wonderful time. Great chemistry and even great connection--we've been in sync with one another. He even admitted something like this just doesn't happen to him. It was difficult for both of us when he left. I know he likes me and cares a lot but he's a guy who has to take time to process things. We did say we would visit one another but don't have any solid plans--it's been a week since he left. I did let him know that he's very special to me and that I felt we shouldn't end it just because there's mileage between us. He's left it open between us. We're both in our 40s. So now how do I keep the connection going? How do I get him to really miss me and want to visit more often?--to move forward and not backward? Basically, how do I play his game? (I've never been good at playing games.)

I'm not sure what you mean by "playing his game". But if you both want to continue to see one another, you should stay in contact and plan to visit as often as you can. It is putting your heart out there because a lot could change with the distance, but you have to decide if this guy might be worth it. Just try to let things happen naturally with as little expectation as possible.

Good luck!

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Hi twodatediva,

Thanks for the sound advice. I'll do just that.

D.

Come on, if you love the guy then move to where he is! What in life is really more important than a true love?

if he really cares about you and still has that special connection with you, he will make the effort for you. some things are meant to be and if this is meant to be then it will be in your favor. you have to make the effort to see him too.