My friend has an AMAZING job - that she loves and is perfect for. I am so proud of her because she found something that she does so well, thrives in, and something not that many people can do. So the problem is, my friend needs advice and I don't know what to tell her. She has been dating a guy - long distance for two years and wants to move to a whole new state to live with him. The only problem is she has a lovely life, surrounded by friends etc. (and she has a great job). If he hasn't asked her to marry him, then is it worth the move? I don't know what to tell her, because she loves him, and he wants her to move, but hasn't made any hits that he wants to get married. Is it just me or is this a very unfair situation???? Should he commit before she moves?

Hey Lily,
What about his situation? Since it seems she has a great life going for her at home, has he ever considered moving to her state? Also, a part of me feels he should commit before she moves so she is sure she's not giving up everything for nothing. But I hate ultimatums. Has he given any indications that he's serious about her?

Yeah, Ultimatums are bad. Definitely avoid those. I would just try to start a conversation, and see where it leads, but don't pose an either/or choice for him. It's just good to feel him out and see what he thinks on the topic. But it is worth brining up. My mom actually brought up the questions, so what's going on with us and our relationship, and my dad ended up proposing...hahaha.

Thats A good question. I dont know what I wud do Because she May have feelings for him now and everything and love him very much but she has too look out 4 her self.. There are many things up the road what if it doesnt work out? Then she ruined everything down here just too be with him and then she is left with nothing, If I was here I wud stay home and continue my job and be with my family and friends b/c if they are meant to be they will be together and he shouldnt pressure her too move she should decide on her on and do what makes her happy. But Myself I wud stay home and build on that... Why cant he move down here?
I have a question why doesnt anyone replie too my messages?

The guy wants her to move, they're in love and you're concerned because he hasn't asked her to marry him?! Let me tell you something: if he wasn't serious about her, no way would he ask her to move in with him. He must really care about her. She's lucky to find him. You're post is titled "Would you give everything up" but I think she's getting something pretty special. If she moves, are you (and her other friends) and family going to stop talking to her? To cut off all contact? I hope not. Plus, she can make new friends there and have him.