I am a newlywed and a new mom as well !! I enjoy my new life as a wife and mother but it is very demanding. I didn't have a difficult labor but I tore in the process. It has now been 4 months and me & my husband have not been able to have sex. Not saying that we have not tried because we have but it has been very painful. I have gone to the doctor to make sure everything is ok down there, and she says it will just take time to heal. before our child we had a very, very active sex life and now we don't have one. I feel the strain that it is putiing on me & my husband. Any advice on how to ease back into sex ????

Dear MissMia, Hi I have just joined this site. I am a Man. I came here to try and get some advice for my self. But, I want to try and help you although your Question is a few months old.

And by now you may well be back to a "very active sex life" How do you and your husband feel about oral sex? I mean that may be an Idea, to hold the pain away and with "no other forcable entry." to cause you pain sence you stated that "You Tore!" This would or could satisfiy? you both and at the same time allow you to heal.

Sorry for sounding a bit forward or graphic ok?...But I like it and so far, find that most women do. ...And that is part of my question to you if you and your husband do have oral??

I have an Erection problem in that; I don't get one at all! or, I get one so full and hard, and it last so long that it hurts like it is trying to rip out of the skin! I don't know what it is called but It hurts like H! Now I am by no means bragging but. I tend to go to deep for her " My Wife" and when I hit bottom I still have an Inch or so left outside her ..

So we have oral sex alot! and to help you and your husband I want to tell you how it seems to be the best way to do it and then you can have Orgasams agian. and also maybe you may be able to tell me how a woman "My Wife" may be able to fully take me as it is frusstrating to have to hold back and can't let go and enjoy it. to it's full depth and although she has said I am so thick that it feels like I am about to rip her I have not tore her yet..and hope that, don't happen. and is also, why I hold back my full thrust in her! and I feel for you that you tore!
when it does happen also, is there some way she could get me to my climax and or a positition she could take it? hard and All the way In? As for you and your husband after you have had oral sex for a spell, then have him insert a finger or two whatever you can take and have him feel up to the top of your Virgina to find a sort of button or bumpy spot kinda spongy this would be your G-spot it is about an inch or two just in side you And somewhere between the size of a dime to the size of a quater, anyway, have him message it to your liking and then have him at the same time lick circles around your clitorious and gently suck on it and at the same time do sort of a come here mottion with his fingers as he pushes upward and in and out at the same time! this should build you to climax quickly and then just before your release have him blow out so his lips viberate like a motorboat and drive you mad! well, hope this helps both of you.
and hope you may be able to help me with my very strange problem. and also, Mia I am sorry as I know how all this sounds but I swear it is all very true so if you do have any suggestions that I may use to give my wife all of me it would be very much appreciated!

Thank you for you time and , hope others might have some real help and yes I know that this is going to cause some to doubt what I say as truth! that is fine I am used to it and all i can say is I hope they never have to go through this kind of agongy!

Thank You ,fixurmotor4u "auto"