I am a newlywed and a new mom as well !! I enjoy my new life as a wife and mother but it is very demanding. I didn't have a difficult labor but I tore in the process. It has now been 4 months and me & my husband have not been able to have sex. Not saying that we have not tried because we have but it has been very painful. I have gone to the doctor to make sure everything is ok down there, and she says it will just take time to heal. before our child we had a very, very active sex life and now we don't have one. I feel the strain that it is putiing on me & my husband. Any advice on how to ease back into sex ????