Women are natural people-pleasers. We love making others happy and taking care of their needs. It’s something uniquely beautiful and special about us.
But in order to truly live a happy life we must first and foremost take care of ourselves.
“How selfish!” Some may scream.
But let’s join the new wave of folks who are replacing the word “selfish” with “self-love” and learn to put our needs first.
As you go about your day, put yourself at the head of your receiving line and set healthy boundaries with friends and loved ones.
If you don’t feel like talking let your phone ring to voicemail. If you feel overwhelmed unplug. It’s perfectly OK to allow time to pass before replying to texts or emails.
Most important, learn to say NO.
For some reason many of us feel “No” must be accompanied by a reason – a better, more important reason.
But there is no better or more important reason than to take care of ourselves.
If saying no is difficult try: some other time, that day won’t work with my schedule, I’d love to but … and blame it on your dog, plumbing, car, migraine…
And though we all think we’re the center of the universe and if we don’t show up the world will combust, it’s not true. Our friends, family, neighbors, co-workers and everyone else will be just fine.
There’s no need to save anyone.
We’re all on our own journeys.
The show will go on without us.
Next time you’re on an airplane give some attention to the emergency instruction video. Notice how they say in the event of an emergency make sure your oxygen mask is securely in place before assisting others, even your infant child.
The thing is, we can’t give to others when we’re running on empty and don’t have anything to give.
We have to take care of ourselves first in order to be able to take care of anyone else.
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