Though I’m a big believer happiness is a choice (for the most part), life isn’t always sunshine and roses.
We all have our lows.
Sometimes there isn’t even a reason we feel sad, anxious, angry or blah. Maybe we just woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
It’s important we allow ourselves to feel all we’re feeling and at the same time keep in mind it’s only a mood or season. It isn’t the rest of our lives.
How we feel in one moment will give way and there’s no reason to make any life-changing decisions or take drastic action when we’re experiencing negative emotions.
We never need to judge ourselves for what we feel either.
We’re human and experiencing disappointment, heartbreak, frustration and all of life’s lows is normal.
It’s healthy to allow negative emotions to surface rather than stuff them away.
Many people, including a growing number of doctors, believe repressed emotions affect our physical bodies and contribute to disease (feelings of dis-ease) and are as important to pay attention to as eating right and exercise.
In addition to not taking drastic action I’m learning (and practicing!) to relax into negative feelings and emotions.
I’m noticing the more I allow them, not judge myself and stay in awareness that all I’m experiencing is an unwanted emotion or feeling, the quicker they give way to better ones.
There’s a fantastic poem by Rumi, “The Guest House” that sums up perfectly how we should invite each emotion into our lives like a guest into our home.
“Be grateful for their visit and recognize they’re here for a reason.” He says. “Entertain and talk to them. Get to know them, listen and learn why they’ve come into your life.”
It’s our birthright to experience emotions and it’s important we allow them. (All of them!) They’re not who we are, they’re what we feel.
Like Rumi says, we can welcome emotions like a guest into our home, get to know, listen and learn from them. And then when the time is right, kindly bid them goodnight.
The Guest House
This being human is a guesthouse.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
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